Is bed size a barometer of emotional intimacy for you? Would you feel that your other half was having an affair if they suddenly raised the topic of buying a larger bed? Would the best Valentine's Day present ever be a double bed wrapped up in red ribbon and covered (not in rose petals- blah!) but in Belgian chocolates - sigh!
I hadn't really ever given this topic that much thought until girlfriends were discussing it recently. I was amazed that opinion could be so strongly divided among seven women.
Sure, I'd noticed that when we'd given in and bought a king-sized bed because the MouseWolves crowded us out in the queen-sized bed, that I virtually had to use a loud hailer or semaphore to communicate with my spouse, and that cuddling in bed took a very deliberate and conscious effort because two furballs kept insinuating themselves very insistently in the way.
Part of a couple? What's your bed of choice? Double, Queen or King?
But, wait. There's more.
Do you share with furkids or humankids?
Talk of sharing with furchildren and it's almost like admitting that you're somehow deviant in certain circles. My whimpering, whining voice kept interjecting "But they're clean puppies. They've just had a groom. They're like cats. They hardly take up any room. No I don't wake up with hair in my mouth." Well, I kind of lied there. Sometimes I do wake up with the odd, very tiniest hair. But it could be mine. Or my husbands. We shed too, don't you know!!!
And I definitely lied about the taking up room bit. We both finish up clinging to each side of the bed because the girls are luxuriously spread out down the middle.
And that little princess in the picture loves resting her head on a pillow. She usually shares mine! She nestles herself in near the bedhead so that her little head is resting against one narrow end of my pillow. Loves her creature comforts does that little one.
And yes, I do remember what it was like to need a larger bed because the five year old and the two year old migrated during the night and we were living in Indonesia at the time and it was excessively humid for three family years.
I remember being quite shocked as a teenager when I visited a friend's house and seeing her parent's bedroom and seeing that they had separate beds. I felt deeply disturbed as if there was something deeply wrong in this home. Now I look back and think, how incredibly sane!
Bed size and comfort is actually an incredibly serious topic. If you wanted to change the status quo I can imagine it could be quite fraught, but it would be worth it as sleep and intimacy are basic to human, and canine happiness.